Last week I decided I was going to treat myself. Instead of going to a hotel, which I normally do very often, I went for shopping. Well, I deserved it because I am special to me.
By the way, apart from being around people and relationships, it is sometimes important to date yourself, pull out of the crowd, and do something that is special to you.
When I was busy doing some personal shopping, I got into a conversation with one of those vendors. He was disappointed because he felt had lost himself and a whole lot of people who would have helped him. We got into a lengthy conversation, and as we talked, I learnt several things from him.
However, I told him that he needed to focus on him first. This would provide enough time to become sober and come back to his real self. This article provides some things that you need to do to regain your own self.
But before we go into that, let us think about this:
Important Relationships that you should never lose
- A Relationship with yourself
You can have a broken relationship with yourself. Yes! I mean exactly that! In fact, many people are lost and no longer have a connection with their own being. This is where you no longer connect with who you once were, or who people considered you to be. People who get to this point become furious, lack self-esteem, look for healing in a toxic relationship, or even lose themselves in drugs and sex.
I was here once! Getting back en route took months of fasting and serious prayer. During this time, I lost almost everything, including my closest friends. Anyway, that is a story for another day!
- A Relationship with your Parents
I once admired a young kind lady in town the other day. She was holding her father’s hand-who was stricken with old age-while they walked together. It got me thinking. I considered it as one of the deepest love gestures.
Our parents supported us when we could not walk with our feet. They changed our dirty nappies, and they never complained. Do not dare to break the parent-child relationship because it has consequences.
- Covenant Friends
Sometime we pursue our selfish ways thinking that we are wiser than our friends. I am a victim of this too. Sometimes it is good to listen to them. Listen to their advice, it has some truth in it.
- Your spouse
I will not put so much emphasis on this because I am yet to reach there. Nevertheless, from a son’s point of view, when mom and dad are in a serious argument, it tends to affect the children more.
What Should you Do to Regain a Loving Relationship with Yourself
The prodigal son was very decided when he made a decision to go back to his father. He knew that he had wasted so much money and energy on things that were not beneficial. With the prodigal son’s return in mind, you should do these things.
- Get Rid of All Toxic Relationships
Get rid of friends that do not have the same vision as yours. They will pull you away from knowing who (and what) you can be, derail you, and push you away from purpose.
Cut down every communication with them for a while. This will give you enough time to sober up and get back to the place that you belong. A toxic relationship does not just include people; some actions and things that we accommodate can also be toxic. For instance, alcohol, porn, procrastination, laziness, weaknesses, and toxic relationships are perfect examples of toxic relationships.
- Make a Decision
Do you remember the last time you tried to leave something and it did not work?
The reason you went back to that struggle was because you had not made a decision. A decision influences your life in a very big way. Most people would be free of struggles, millionaires, have healthy relationships, if they only made a decision. The prodigal son felt that the people who were around his father benefited more than him.
- Date Yourself
Start dating yourself. We spend so much money dating others that we forget that we are also human beings that have needs. Start recognizing those needs for yourself and start to deal with them one by one. Even though it may take some time before you achieve one thing, continue givin
g it full attention. Dating yourself also gives you self-control.
- Prepare for the next level of your life
- Surround yourself with people that have same vision with yourself
- Embrace new things, new activities
- Start a business, learn a new skill
Most prosperous people will tell you that their biggest success came from the deepest pain. You are building a new foundation; take time to dig deep into it. The struggle you are facing was a challenge that came to help you realize that you required change.